I was thinking the other day about when relationships were simple. Boy meets girl, boy asks girl out on a date, boy and girl get along and decide to be boyfriend-girlfriend. Those were the good old days, weren’t they? That shit hasn’t happened to me since high school!
When and why did things get so complicated?
While I am well aware the object of SOS is NOT to get attached, we are certainly doing our fair share of dating, which = practice and exposure to our fair share of ‘situations’. The general consensus these days is that there are far too many games being played (when it comes to emotions. The SOS game doesn't count! LOL).
So what’s the trouble? Why are *some* men and women incapable of playing fair when it comes to dating/relationships? Below I propose some explanations – and am soliciting your feedback on this one.
Hypothesis #1 – blame the internet
When and why did things get so complicated?
While I am well aware the object of SOS is NOT to get attached, we are certainly doing our fair share of dating, which = practice and exposure to our fair share of ‘situations’. The general consensus these days is that there are far too many games being played (when it comes to emotions. The SOS game doesn't count! LOL).
So what’s the trouble? Why are *some* men and women incapable of playing fair when it comes to dating/relationships? Below I propose some explanations – and am soliciting your feedback on this one.
Hypothesis #1 – blame the internet
- Too much choice is never a good thing. With so many singles available to us through dating sites, this plethora of choice can lead to some thinking that something better could be just around the corner, so why settle with what’s in front of you.
- Also - it’s far too easy to access singles (and sometimes not-so-singles), willing to do just about anything, at a click of a few buttons. It seems at the slightest hint of things going sour, or even when found with a few spare moments and spurred on by boredom, these days ppl are turning to the internet to find their next trick!
Hypothesis #2 – blame the English
- Is it just me or have guys lost the ability to tell you what they are thinking? I mean, I am not looking for an essay on emotions, or a poem professing undying love (puke). A simple “I don’t think I am into it anymore” would save hours of speculation and time wasted not pursuing other hot men!
- If you are having trouble coming up with the right words to say it, may I suggest the following site: http://www.dearjohn.com/
Hypothesis #3 – blame the weather
- Maybe working indoors has affected peoples energy levels (vitamin D shortage) so much that this apathy is spilling over into our social lives? I am really getting tired of hearing “maybe he’s just not that in to me”, or “he cancelled cause he’s too tired”. Since when has a guy ever been too tired for sex???
- Visit you local GNC - sort that shit out.
So… that’s my rant for this week. Maybe I’m just PMSing?
Would love your comments!
Cassie x
Does anyone even know what they want these days? Seems to me the common 'want' is the best of both worlds, all the fun of a singleton life with the fall-back and comfort of a relationship.
ReplyDeleteThose in relationships are far too often found enjoying what should only be enjoyed by those who are single; are relationships impossible? Or are people just too weak or selfish?
Hypothesis #1, I agree- the world of internet and social networks/online dating/online spying/etc has turned dating into a complicated game; but it is the world we live in- so how do we deal?
Hypothesis #2- I don't buy it- even if it is by text (*ugh, not desirable or very respectful, none the less*) communication is on the upswing, for better or worse.
Hypothesis #3- Hard to say weather (as in vitamin D shortage anyhow with this summer!!) unless it is to say the fabulous weather inspires many spontaneous 'outings' which could tire a person out (male or female).....however I agree if you are into someone you would want to spend time with them, tired or not....
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xo, Monica